Why do we stay in situations that are not good for us?
You name it: relationships, jobs, homes, rooms, dinners, phone conversations, weekend plans…? Clothes? 

Is it the fear of the unknown? The thought that “we have already invested so much”? The fear of getting old alone that seems to be screaming at us everywhere? Seriously, when was the last time you saw a romcom celebrating singlehood in old age?
Is it the legacy of our foremothers, still trying to make our subconscious believe that we need a partner to feel safe, complete?
That silly notion that we may be happier in the company of another, of a life partner?
Our seemingly undying desire to care for others, to protect, to mother? Even our prospective partners?

Many of my clients remember their bodies telling them that it was time for them to go. That their relationship time was up. But they did not want to listen. With tears in their eyes, fists closed, red faces, they remember those tense moments with regret. And let’s be clear —the sadness, the anger, oftentimes the disappointment, isn’t about their attempt at partnership not having worked out. It is about not having listened to their intuition. It’s about having stayed against their will, despite that little voice that urged them to be free, prolonging their discomfort, listening to pleas, robbing themselves of the peace and self-love they deserved.

If you’re feeling like something’s off —it probably is. 
If there’s something that’s making you cry every now and then, something tugging at your stomach, keeping you up at night, making you smile  less often —I urge you to pay attention to that.
And therapy can be a very good place to do that.

Listen to me:

YOU build your own joy.
YOU get to celebrate, dance, sing, write, journal, build with stickers and bright colours the scrapbook of your life. However YOU want. 
If there is someone else in the room, they will be the lucky ones. Only if YOU let them be there; if they contribute to that joy that YOU have created. And because YOU created it, YOU are the only one that knows EXACTLY the right recipe for it to stay. And oh, trust me, girl —once you’ve found it, there’s no way you’ll ever give that up. Because that is real —and yes, it’s YOURS and YOURS alone.